“I prefer myself liking people
to myself loving mankind.”
I love the way Wislawa Szymborska put together a splendid picture of preferences in her poem Possibilities. Every time I read it, it makes me think about all the countless ways out there for us to be and to choose from; about my own past, current, and future choices. And also about authenticity and integrity.
How difficult can be at time to share a true story of ourselves – be it in a professional or personal setting – and how hard it can be for others to understand it! What we show every day to people around us (in person and online) are bits and pieces of an enormous picture of ourselves, a picture that might not be clear even to us in its entirety. In addition, the story is continuously written and changes every second…
How often do we find ourselves in the situation of telling something about ourselves? To family and friends, colleagues at work, sitting in a taxi or while getting a haircut… and everywhere we show a tiny piece of who we are, be it through words, gestures, body language, social media. Storyline and tone of voice tend to change depending on counterparts, topic, circumstances, channels.
Adapting is often necessary to cope with our so different roles and situations. In this line of thought, would compromising on our true self be a legitimate option if it would make it easier to progress, be liked or reach a goal? A naïve question, you might think. And here is what it might appear a naïve answer – not for me!