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True… To Yourself

“I prefer myself liking people
to myself loving mankind.”

Possibilities by Wislawa Szymborska

I love the way Wislawa Szymborska put together a splendid picture of preferences in her poem Possibilities. Every time I read it, it makes me think about all the countless ways out there for us to be and to choose from; about my own past, current, and future choices. And also about authenticity and integrity.

How difficult can be at time to share a true story of ourselves – be it in a professional or personal setting – and how hard it can be for others to understand it! What we show every day to people around us (in person and online) are bits and pieces of an enormous picture of ourselves, a picture that might not be clear even to us in its entirety. In addition, the story is continuously written and changes every second…

How often do we find ourselves in the situation of telling something about ourselves? To family and friends, colleagues at work, sitting in a taxi or while getting a haircut… and everywhere we show a tiny piece of who we are, be it through words, gestures, body language, social media. Storyline and tone of voice tend to change depending on counterparts, topic, circumstances, channels.

Adapting is often necessary to cope with our so different roles and situations. In this line of thought, would compromising on our true self be a legitimate option if it would make it easier to progress, be liked or reach a goal? A naïve question, you might think. And here is what it might appear a naïve answer – not for me!

True to yourself


About irinapashina

Marketing professional, blogger, group fitness instructor, reader, theater-goer


6 thoughts on “True… To Yourself

  1. Hey Irina, I thought about you´re writing, and I thought about “who I am” – I realized just like you that it´s not a fixed “me” – but different “me”s at different times.
    By the way this lady thinks a bit differently on “compromising your true self” – what do you think of her theory?


    Posted by Olivia Falkenstein | May 28, 2013, 8:52 am
    • Hey Olivia,
      thanks for your comment! Believe it or not, but I thought about Amy Cuddy´s talk a lot after I had seen it some time ago. I often find myself thinking about her findings – be it in stressful situations or simple interactions. And from my own humble observations I can confirm that our non-verbal expressions do influence the way we feel and how we come across, and the way we perceive others. Which in my eyes can actually help us show our true self.

      Posted by irinapashina | May 30, 2013, 8:45 pm


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