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(Re)Discovery 8: Distance

“The further from one another, the nearer one can be.”
August Strindberg

I moved to another country more than 10 years ago. My social environment, circle of friends and acquaintances have completely changed since then. In all these years I had the chance to (re)discover many ways to view and deal with distance as it has been a significant aspect of my life.

It was not only the spatial remoteness that mattered, but also (and more importantly) the personal and emotional separation.
Conventional wisdom in slogans like “Far from eye far from heart” didn’t help at all. They even seemed detrimental in their endless and superficial generalization. In fact, in many cases infinite distances developed over time despite physical closeness and in others the spatial remoteness didn’t affect a relationship at all. I will most probably never discover a clear pattern behind that.

Author: Westinghouse Electric; CC BY-SA 3.0 license; via Wikimedia Commons

Author: Westinghouse Electric; CC BY-SA 3.0 license; via Wikimedia Commons

While technology and social networks can certainly be a boon when it comes to keeping in touch, bridging distances remains a challenge. It requires genuine motivation, even willpower, and a lot of effort to keep people we cherish “within a walking distance” no matter where they are.

But if we handle distance gracefully, we can cover it in one time at any given moment. By starting a conversation, sending a note, making a phone call… or writing a blog. And that’s when something wonderful can start or continue.


About irinapashina

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4 thoughts on “(Re)Discovery 8: Distance

  1. Well said Irina! I know what you mean and still hope that despite all the technology we will always be human…. Keep it real!

    Posted by hubgre | July 26, 2013, 2:50 pm
  2. This somewhat reminds me of your very first post of the (Re)Discovery series – Friendship (I’m sure you can see the parallels as well, so not elaborating on that). The idea of distance is very interesting indeed. As you so eloquently put it, it is not just the spatial dimension, but it is about personal and emotional separation; the spacial dimension just adds to that. I am quite sure that most of us would second that. Who doesn’t remember having had a common-law spouse that, at some point, they felt so distanced from, from an emotional POV?!
    Thinking about it for a while, I’d even say that the spacial dimension is absolutely irrelevant, as long as there’s personal and emotional nearness. Just a thought, I wouldn’t necessarily clame it to be true ;).

    Posted by sharpxs | July 27, 2013, 7:51 pm
    • Yes, the parallels to my Friendship post are obvious here. What I found really interesting is the dimensions of the “distance” concept. I agree to a certain extent that the spatial dimension sometimes hardly plays any role. Isn’t it ironic that we can connect with some people so well without having seen them (at all or) for a long time and we cannot connect (or stop connecting with) despite seeing them frequently? However, I feel nothing can substitute in-person experiences and they are despite all the more moving and powerful ways for human connections. The physical closeness does matter after all…

      Posted by irinapashina | July 27, 2013, 8:52 pm

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