When was the last time you tried to be someone else to fulfill expectations and meet needs of people around you?
Different situations and surroundings often require a particular behavior or a distinct way of handling things. This might be determined by the duties involved, the attitude expected or the impression you would like to leave. But how do you ensure you remain true to yourself? And do you even need to remain true to yourself? It’s interesting to experience people in different roles, a fact that sometimes makes it difficult to figure out who they really are and what they stand for.
I’ve recently started a career coaching that shed light on this topic for me. Delving into my values and goals through different techniques seemed dreadful at first, but it turned out an eye-opening and rewarding experience. An experience that thought me a few lessons, the three major ones so far are:
- building trust is key in making meaningful human connections
- figuring out what matters to you most is an important step in paving the way to achieving your goals
- having courage and persistence in looking for answers on your own is key
These sound so simple and obvious. However, complexities and dependencies in today’s ever-changing world can prevent you from seeing the seemingly obvious – the obvious you and what you would like (or rather what you need) to stand for and strive for.
Coaching has helped me re-discover this essence. It has also been reminder to always keep this essence central to everything I do. To me, remaining true to yourself equals being authentic and having a high level of integrity. Since the latter two play a key role in my value system, remaining true to myself is not optional, but necessary. If authenticity and integrity are important to you too, chances are you share the unbearable lightness of being yourself.